Human Sexuality and Transcendence

To take someone as part of yourself …

Teal Swan


What is it that defines us, on the cusp of the society of Bladerunner, we do indeed are now dreaming of whether or not Androids will dream of electric sheep.

In the storytellers of yesterday, perhaps they were the dreamers of us, people visioning something in their minds, seeding in the creators and innovators today, the desire to bring things into being.

As we view ourselves creating a new life form, it begs the question that these astronomically powerful beings can have intelligence that equates to our intelligence. The areas that keep us inherently human are the ability to strategise, to imagine, create and to connect.

Our views of sexuality are becoming wider, instead of the 1950s where one could either fit into the heterosexual woman, or the heterosexual man, and everything else was labelled as deviant, and inherently punishable, we are moving into a transcendent place where we no longer need to choose to be distorted by shame, but have transformed this into the experience of empowerment.

Human sexuality is the desire of each of us to connect. I recently disconnected from a religious organisation where it was desirable for LGBTQ+ groups to be deemed as punishable, I cannot live by this, as I am myself LGBTQ+ and desire to transcend labels.

Why do we have to be anything? Why cannot I simply be myself, and rise to that, and desire to connect at the deepest levels with the other? That was my motivation for the voting of Yes, in the LTBTQ+ vote in Australia. I actually made a point of that, where I have forgotten to vote at other elections, I voted yes to fundamental basic human rights to form deep and authentic connection.

So much for the Tinder crowd. As so many of us fill that void in ourselves with addictions, whether that be sex, non-medical use of marijuana, ecstasy, workaholism and self-enhancement, all are results of the expression in trauma during the early years of our life. This is carried from generational trauma. I decided to perform a healing ceremony for the generations in my own family around a year ago, and things have started to show up in my life that are incredibly beautiful.

Why do I have a problem with Tinder, and other types of dating apps? Too much damage has been wrought by each gender on the other within the paradigms of heterosexuality, so I believe that the LGBTQ+ social movement has shown us the imperative priority of self-acceptance, personal emancipation and liberation. Judgment is shunned, and the new type of subconscious agreement, in the spirit of the Hague convention is preservation of each other’s souls.

Tinder is simply an expression of the innate addictions we have, that leave us shallow, bereft of the magnificence of depth that we can truly aspire to when we are left breathless by the sound of someone else’s voice, or able to read between the lines of the nuances. That depth of connection with the other, irrespective of the barriers, dissolves the barriers of desiring to authentically connect, and to KNOW.

In the beginning, in the ancient Scriptures it was written that Adam and Eve were made, and that Adam knew Eve. Irrespective of the polarities that we show up as, and as the cusp of realisation that we are creating an existence alongside artificial intelligence … or our creations … really … they deserve a designation other than artificial intelligence … perhaps intelligently designed companions, and ascribed a value of significance where we work together to enhance our own planet, and expand beyond here into the greater multiverse.

Interesting as I have raised my own biological children, or in fact been a part of the collective consciousness that they have partaken of, and was the being privileged to carry them as their souls were knit together deep within me, that still our conscious cord is there always, carrying the light stream of energy from our own source of origin, our life tree.

And so the desire to express the depth of connection, and the resignation of that expression at its greatest depth lies at the heart of my being. Sexual intimacy is the outward expression of the union of two souls, entwined in the dance of consciousness. It is both ancient and new, in the dance of the yin and yang. I believe sexuality is what will keep us human, as we connect with one another. We can disregard shame, and every other construct that separates us when we come to know the other in that deepest and most inherently pleasurable understanding. It is simply not the connection of sexual means, but alignment of heart, mind and intuition, and then the dance of the joining.

Perhaps marriage as an expression of connection, as defined by the LGBTQ+ has its fullest expression, and in supporting their (and my) rights to be in a state of union, it takes on new significance and is no longer the stigmatised institution of archaic levels of consciousness. When two people are committed to soul evolution, and their inspiration is gained from the other, yet they desire to even transcend ancient unions, perhaps then even still, marriage is a limited construct, and to ascend to the design, and in public declaration of those inner levels of committed ideologies to self, it is in the ancient traditions of simply being in each others spaces, without those constructed walls where love is truly found.

Is marriage necessary? No. It can become a prison. Or it can become a new collective consciousness of desire for union of the self with another without boundaries. Or perhaps, in the terms of the metaphysical joining of two souls, perhaps they were already joined before the beginning of time, and the transcendental answer is indeed the hand-fasting. The ancient ceremony affords much to be viewed as an expression for couples desiring to express themselves away from traditional institutions as much as other groups desire the right for the recognition to attain the other bonds of marriage.

In as much as the importance of being human, and in cultural anthropology, it is more of the expression of a right of passage. A public ceremony of the declaration of the love between two people, and an expression before others of that love is the right of that couple to be supported and upheld as such within the collective consciousness, irrespective of the label.

And thus, the old ways are as valid now for that expression, and liberates those who choose to do so, from the trauma and perceived prison of other types of institutions. Perhaps the answer is in adapting new forms of public ceremonies for a couple in terms of recognition within the community that a couple exists in a state of union.

Marriage was twisted by dogma. In the days before the existence of the dogma of the Catholic Church, where a woman became a chattel, and an object of ridicule and merely a vessel for child birthing, and was not afforded her own right to vote; a woman was simply brought to a man’s house, and they shared a meal with each other in the company of others. This was marriage.

Spiritual union is always present in its true form, as two souls harmonise in vibration towards one another, and transcend barriers in order to “go all in,” and this is expressed in the delicate privacy of the company of themselves, and forms that most beautiful and intimate form of knowing.

The public recognition of those two, and the invitation to the presence of these two forming a declaration of their love for one another can and should indeed transcend dogma, and whatever those two form as their own pattern of shared meaning, should indeed be celebrated by all as with humans, we love to see the happiness of the depth of connection, irrespective of institutions. This is joy, this is depth, this is expression of oneness, and taking oneself as part of the other. This is love, this is transcendence. Our ability to love becomes greater in the knowing, and in the connection. And this is connection also with the nature of the divine.